How to Survive Life Transitions and Bank the Wisdom from Them!

Last time, we spoke about “life changes.” In other words, we discussed how to manage when life throws you a proverbial curve ball. A life transition, however, happens at our choosing. It can be as daunting as any life change, but we have the advantage of being able to prepare. Still, no preparation can cover all the bases. That’s where the real learning happens and the wisdom gets banked. For starters, let’s clarify what some of these life transitions may be. It’s tricky to attempt creating a complete list but there are some universal options. Common Life Transitions Moving/relocation Changing jobs or careers Retirement Getting married/moving in together Getting separated or divorced Starting a family Graduation Changes in family and friendship relationships Major health challenges Major lifestyle change (religion, diet, and so on) All of these (and more) can be planned in advance. This prevents the shock aspect of a life change. However, even a carefully planned transition will supply more than a few surprises. When those jolts happen, it helps to have a few backup plans to bolster your resilience. 6 Ways to Survive Life Transitions and Bank the Wisdom from Them! 1. Prepare your mind and body You have the necessary strength and endurance inside you. To tap into these resources, you must be at your best. This calls for self-care. It means encouraging smart sleep patterns, healthy eating habits, and regular exercise. And that’s not all. Develop some relaxation techniques. We may be planning for a change. That doesn’t mean there won’t be challenges, upheaval, and a sense of loss. The best version of you is prepared to handle it. 2. Keep your eyes on the big picture Small details are important. [...]

By |2017-08-24T18:50:07+00:00August 1st, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

What Now? Making the Most of Major Life Changes!

What Now? Making the Most of Major Life Changes! Nothing is permanent except change. You’d think we’d all be used to it by now. But change sure does freak most of us out. Then you have life changes. Major life changes. You know, the stuff that rocks foundations and changes everything. Perhaps you're experiencing one or more of the following: Marriage, moving in together Divorce, separation, break-up Death of someone close to you Changing jobs, losing a job retirement Buying a house, relocating Starting a family Serious illness or injury Financial issues (dramatic change in either direction)   The changes listed above are in a league of their own. They offer us opportunities to grow and learn more about ourselves. Hey, if change is inevitable, we should do our best to make the most of it! How to Make the Most of Major Life Changes 1. Prepare to be depressed/scared/overwhelmed Fasten your seat belt. It’s going to be a bumpy ride. Prepare, prepare, prepare. Do what you need to do so you’re not taken by surprise. How do we do that? Read on. 2. Take care of yourself Self-care is a basic choice in life. In the midst of major life changes, it becomes a life saver. Consider: Regular sleep patterns Healthy eating habits Daily exercise and activity Stress management The best version of you is needed. The best version of you is only possible if you start with the basics. 3. Create a support system Do you have friends and family you can rely on? Take out a pen and paper. List the people in your life. Now, honestly appraise their role in your circle. In big moments, you deserve to be surrounded with [...]

By |2017-08-24T18:50:21+00:00July 25th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

The Basics of Effective Communication Skills

What passes for effective communication skills has changed dramatically. Or has it? Sure, the methods have become increasingly high tech. This means more than a few communication tweaks. But the basic guidelines remain the same. However, the basic guidelines remain the same. The Basics of Effective Communication Skills 1. Active listening Listening is more than waiting for your turn to speak. To listen actively is to incorporate the following practices: Concentration Focus Your full attention An intention to respond with understanding 2. Body language This is one of the most underrated aspects of communication. It can be as simple as sustaining eye contact or making interest noises. The idea is to show the speaker you’re listening. Also, a welcoming and open posture makes the speaker feel more comfortable. 3. Asking questions (without interrupting) It’s very important to connect to those with whom you’re communicating. But don’t forget- timing matters. 4. Desire Effective communication skills start with desire. We have to want them and want to do what it takes to improve them. Like anything else, that means commitment and practice. The Benefits of Effective Communication Skills 1. Less misunderstanding Yes, this sounds obvious but it bears discussion. How many disagreements and arguments are caused by poor communication? To say “most” would be an understatement. 2. Deeper and closer relationships Communication is a process. A relationship is a process. When they develop together, the results can be very enriching. 3. Less anxiety How often have you wondered and worried about being misunderstood? Do you blame yourself when conflicts happen? Give it your all while listening and speaking. This won’t guarantee agreement. But it can ease your mind and help you develop your skills further. 4. Financial [...]

By |2017-08-24T18:51:17+00:00July 18th, 2017|Brain Training, Coaching, Counseling|0 Comments

How a Career Coach Can Help You Get Ahead in the Game!

It used to be a simple cliché to point out how quickly things are changing. Now, by the time those words leave your mouth, things have already changed again! Even those with lots of vision can fear being left behind. Fortunately, you’re not alone. Working with a career coach makes you part of a super team. What does a career coach do? Combine your favorite teacher with a dedicated coach and an understanding therapist and you have an idea. Working with a career coach involves learning new information. Together, you will seek and find solutions. You will also respect the process. We’re talking self-improvement as a journey, not a destination. Why do you need a career coach? To list all the possible reasons would take a book (or more). Most simply, it’s a matter of appreciating the challenges. You’re amazing. You’re a go-getter and do-it-yourself type. Everyone admires your ability to think on your feet.  Yet, all this doesn’t mean you don’t need help.   A career coach has chosen to specialize. They study the field and the market. No new trend slips past them unexamined. You cannot reasonably be expected to have a full grasp on all this. Working with an expert allows you to benefit from their knowledge and experience. 6 Ways a Career Coach Can Help You Get Ahead in the Game! Kickstart your motivation Not everyone is self-motivated. This isn’t automatically good or bad but, it can help when it comes to your career. Like any good mentor, a career coach wants lessons to carry over to all the times when you’re not in touch. Learn more about yourself, your strengths, and where you need improvement This is where the “counseling” [...]

By |2017-08-24T18:50:57+00:00July 11th, 2017|Coaching|0 Comments

Joyless Job? 6 Ideas to Improve Career Satisfaction!

Most of us must make tough choices regarding our livelihoods at some point. We may have a job we hate but make enough money to live securely. On the other hand, we might experience career satisfaction if we sacrifice high salary expectations. You can’t have it all. Right? Obviously, it’s much more nuanced than that. For those of us in a position to choose our field of work, the choice is definitely not black and white. Many, many factors play a role. Recent career satisfaction findings 80 percent of workers feel stressed on the job Only 30 percent are “engaged and inspired” by their careers 18 percent of workers, in fact, are “actively disengaged” from their job Canada came in 17th of 35 nations in the 2016 Job Happiness Index A survey by Hays Canada, a recruitment firm, found 47 percent of Canadian professionals to be "unhappy in their job." Common causes of career dissatisfaction No job security Little or no opportunity to progress Being micromanaged Feel unfulfilled/not challenged by work tasks Financial security without personal fulfillment does not feel like success Not working at a career that fulfills purpose and passion Not doing what you are based on personality type Yes, some circumstances are beyond our control. But career satisfaction is still quite possible. And career satisfaction combined with financial security is also quite possible too. Consider the following: 6 Ideas to Improve Career Satisfaction Re-visit that standard childhood question “What are you going to be when you grow up?” Unfortunately, this question assumes the child to not be anything at the moment. However, it is instructive to recall your most common answers. What vision did you have for yourself? What goal or [...]

By |2017-08-24T18:51:08+00:00July 4th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Hypnosis Overcomes Negative Subconscious Programming!

hypnosis   What are your current beliefs? To help answer that question, consider the following topics and feelings: Health Relationships Money Happiness Success Fear Love What do you believe about each of them? Better question: How did your childhood shape your beliefs? For most of us, our subconscious programming occurred before we were 10 years old. Most of us haven’t explored or worked on this reality. Such beliefs may still be in charge of our lives. This is because our subconscious mind is pretty much who we are. Before we move forward, let’s discuss a few terms. The Subconscious Mind Our subconscious programming is to us what an operating system is to a computer. Among many, many other things, our subconscious mind contains our: Beliefs Habits Memories Control over our bodies To put it as simply as possible, our subconscious programming creates about 95 percent of our personality. Hypnosis At one time or another, most of us have swung something in front of a friend’s face and declared: “You are feeling very sleepy,” pretending to bring him or her under our control. In reality, people undergoing hypnotherapy are in full control of their own behavior. They will not do anything they would normally be unwilling to do. Hypnotherapy is a method designed to change our subconscious programming. Over time, it can help patients create new reactions, behaviors, thoughts, and feelings. Four decades of research has found these techniques to be safe and effective. They are used to treat a very wide range of issues and conditions. Here is a small sampling:\ headaches and other common sources of pain addressing addictions, e.g. smoking support during childbirth increasing concentration and focus reducing depression and trauma [...]

By |2017-06-28T23:00:50+00:00June 27th, 2017|Counseling, Hypnotherapy|0 Comments

Neurofeedback and The Brain

brain   How the Brain Works: NeurOptimal® brain training works with the central nervous system and your brain by targeting shifts in the brain’s activity that can undermine optimal brain unction. The brain is the most complex dynamical structure known within the universe. It is able to process massive amounts of information, develop responses and apply these responses for increased efficiency and mastery. Fortunately, consciousness is self-regulated, such that processes not requiring our immediate attention take place outside of our awareness, within the subconscious. This leaves our conscious mind unencumbered to deal with important immediate stimuli that require awareness and focused attention. In learning behavior, a network of supporting neural interconnectivity is established. With repetition, the neural connections are strengthened and more easily activated. Eventually the behavior can become a primary and unconscious response. The brain’s on-going ability to create new pathways and interconnections is essential for learning and adaptability. These features of the dynamical brain have profound implications for day-to-day living. For Example: If we repeat behavior often enough, it develops a self-organizing dynamic that then drives the behavior. Self-sustaining problematic behaviors are largely unconscious and may be as simple as obsolete coping strategies or as extreme as serious psychological and emotional conditions. Once established they influence the way we perceive the world, our relationship with it and our sense of self.   Behavioral dynamics are like a car rolling down a hill. If you jump in front just as it starts to move, it is a lot easier to stop than if it has developed momentum. When behavior has an unconscious component, we are unaware of the activation and the build-up of the dynamical intensity. By the time, it reaches awareness [...]

By |2018-08-15T20:21:39+00:00June 20th, 2017|Brain Training, Neurofeedback|0 Comments

Boost Your Brain Power! How to Train your Brain for Optimal Function and Balance

This mission can begin with some basic self-care suggestions: 1. Aim for regular sleep patterns Optimal brain function is impossible without enough sleep. This is as fundamental as it gets! If you don’t already have a regular sleep routine, make it a major priority. 2. Get active Of course, this means routine exercise. But it definitely does not stop there. Being active relates to more than your daily workout. Consider your lifestyle. Do any of the following apply? • You work a desk job • “Couch potato” describes your free time • Your cell phone posture is hunched or slumped • Long periods of driving or commuting are common Many of these circumstances lead to sedentary lives. Our brains are not pleased. 3. Create healthy eating habits There seems to be a new diet fad every week. But through it all, some truths endure. What and how we eat plays a major role in brain function. If you’re unsure about the quality of your diet, consult a nutritionist or dietician. Your brain must be nourished well to serve you well. 4. Find ways to manage the stress in your life It becomes increasingly difficult to concentrate when you’re stressed out. Developing relaxation techniques is a huge step towards brain power. Common stress-reducing options include: • Yoga • Breathing exercises • Tai chi • Meditation Once you’ve got your self-care basics established, it’s time to get creative! 6 Ways to Train your Brain for Optimal Function and Balance 1. Scale back on usage of tech devices Continual staring at tiny screens can dull your brain’s functionality. Exercise your imagination and diversify your brain activity. Enjoy your brain’s power. Delegate less  to machines. 2. Have deep and [...]

By |2017-06-28T23:05:03+00:00June 13th, 2017|Counseling|0 Comments

Subconscious Sabotage? How to Change Unhealthy Relationship Patterns!

No one wants to be in a dysfunctional relationship. Or do they? Unhealthy relationship patterns are so easy to fall into. It may almost feel like we welcome them, even subconsciously go out of our way to create them. Then, they can feel impossible to change. Let’s identify some of the ways we undermine the nuts and bolts of a healthy relationship and get a clearer idea of what's happening, and how we subconsciously sabotage our close connections. Avoidance What do you avoid? Pain, conflict, change? Avoiding relationship challenges results in repressed emotions. From there, it can be a slippery slope towards strife. Communication problems These problems may include the following: Silent treatment Passive aggression Yelling and blaming Dishonesty When unresolved communication issues take root, they can slowly destroy trust and a sense of safety in your relationship. Lack of self-esteem Is your inner critic telling you lies like these? "You’re not good enough." "He (or she) is losing interest in you." "You don’t make enough money." If you lose faith in yourself, your closest connections will suffer. Jealousy Nothing erodes the foundation of trust, intimacy, and relationship growth like insecurity, jealousy, and controlling behavior. Codependency When the line between compatibility and codependency is blurred, your relationship may become strained. 7 Ways to Change Unhealthy Relationship Patterns Communicate When you first met, could you finish each other’s sentences? Are the sentences between you now just one or two words long? One of you must take a stand and address your communication. Make a date to talk about how well you are or are not talking. You probably understand by now that healthy communication does not happen by accident. It requires work. Always make time to [...]

By |2017-06-14T02:15:02+00:00June 6th, 2017|Counseling|0 Comments

When Hope is Hard to Come By… Brain Training for Depression

Everyone feels sad at one time or another. This feeling may even linger for quite a while. Clinical depression, however, is much more. It’s not a temporary experience. It is a diagnosable condition that impacts as many as 15 million people. That’s almost 7 percent of adults, at any given time. Overall, roughly one in five adults suffers from depression at some point. And this number continues to rise. Common Depression Symptoms Physical changes may include: Drastic change in sleeping habits Sudden increase or decrease in appetite Low energy, frequent fatigue Unexplained pain (particularly headaches and back pain) Emotional issues may include: Bursts of extreme anger A sense of emptiness or hopeless Overwhelming sadness Easily becoming agitated Lack of concentration Memory loss Recurring thoughts of death Thinking and talking about suicide   There is also something called “Walking Smiling Depression”, where the individual disconnects from sadness, grief or depression and appears to be emotionally balanced to others while disconnecting from their feelings and perhaps making unhealthy choices. Current Treatments for Depression We’ve learned so much about the brain and its many conditions. Over the years, effective treatment options have been discovered and are evolving. These include medications, talk therapy, and a combination of both. Some common medications (e.g. Prozac, Lexapro, and Zoloft) have become household names. As for therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a common treatment choice. Results are often quite positive. However, as much as 30 percent of patients suffering from depression do not respond to these treatments. That's where brain training comes in. What is Brain Training? In simple terms, brain training for depression treatment involves the following: Positive Imagery or Self-Hypnosis Neurofeedback In a recent study, people with depression were asked [...]

By |2017-06-14T02:15:15+00:00May 30th, 2017|Brain Training, Counseling|0 Comments