Taking the time to assess your relationship evolution, growth, and future can be the key to maintaining a healthy relationship.
What’s holding you back from living optimally? If you are someone who feels frustrated or stuck, or perhaps you feel like you’re constantly stressed or anxious, or you are someone who struggles to follow through on goals you've committed to, you are not alone. There is good news though, you can absolutely overcome this with Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapy!
When you are experiencing grief, it’s incredibly important to practice both physical and emotional self care to naturally progress through the different stages of grief. In this article I break down 11 self care techniques that you can incorporate into your life today.
Grief goes through a variety of stages that cannot be controlled. The stages are not sequential, and each individual may experience their grief differently as they move back and forth through the different stages.
Grief comes in many forms, and is a natural response to any type of loss. We grieve many things, sometimes on a daily basis! Grief is often misunderstood and it’s unfortunately not discussed as often as it should. In this article I break down a number of myths and common questions I get asked around grief and the grieving process.
Talk counselling & coaching are part of the puzzle, but it's important to utilize methods like neurofeedback and hypnosis that reprogram your subconscious
What do you mean when you talk about boosting your immune system? Let’s take an educated guess at some of the answers: Make changes to your eating habits Exercise daily and stay active Maintain regular sleep patterns Wash your hands often Perhaps you even include answers pertaining to supplements, alternative treatments like acupuncture, and fasting How many of you would focus on your emotions and your psychological well-being? Some of the big emotional stressors that impact our emotional health: Loss of job/switching careers Going to University or career training Financial hardship Moving/relocation Marriage/moving in together Starting a family Starting a new relationship Relationship stresses or abuse Workplace stresses or abuse Separation or divorce Death of a loved one Change of any kind contributes to some level of stress, even good changes Or just dashed expectations of self and what you had hoped was possible Any or all of these usually cause anxiety and stress. In turn, our body responds and reacts. How extreme that reaction varies widely but it is not something to ever take likely. At the very least, when life upsets us, we lose some psychological balance. But there doesn’t have to be a clear and present danger to throw off our balance. If anxiety causes us to perceive a threat, our bodies cannot tell the difference. If there’s a chance of danger—real or not—our “fight or flight” response kicks in. Among other things, this means: Our brain diverts more blood to our muscles to facilitate a physical response In order to gain more energy, we experience an increase in heart rate, fats, blood pressure, and blood sugars Our muscles tense up, thus providing more speed and strength Even our blood clotting [...]
Yes, happy couples fight. Fighting all the time is a red flag. Not fighting at all is also a red flag. But what about those who don’t fight often but when they do, it gets ugly in a hurry? There are caring ways to fight. That may sound contradictory but conflict is a necessary part of life. It’s unavoidable. How we deal with it is the negotiable aspect. Do we fly off the handle or become passive-aggressive or turn it into a contest? There are so many ways to fight unproductively. However, it is quite possible to create a foundation upon which confrontation is not tantamount to war. 6 Caring Ways to Fight in a Relationship Check the power dynamics Whether we admit or not—whether we like it or not—there are factors that give some of us an unfair advantage. Gender, age, size, etc.—these dynamics can shape a confrontation. Check yourself and your partner. Communicate about imbalances in advance. Lay the groundwork for productive fighting. Fight fair No matter how mad you are or how frustrated you get, your words and actions have ramifications. One can make a case that it’s never acceptable to fall back on name-calling and low blows. But this is your partner. It’s not someone who stole your parking space. Under no circumstances should your language become abusive or your behavior threatening. Accept that you can and often are wrong It’s fine to feel strongly about things. Sometimes it’s necessary. But again, never forget who it is you’re fighting with. This isn’t a barroom debate about football teams. In relationship arguments, nuance reigns supreme. You can be right and wrong at the same time. Don’t stubbornly hold a point just to [...]
No, this isn’t a tech comparison between texts, tweets, and PMs. Sure, that’s one way to assess communication preferences. Some like the phone. Others only text. Many choose e-mail. But those are more about delivery than style. Communication styles say a lot about how each of us choose to share information. Of course, these styles can sometimes blur into each other. However, there are some clear lines to be discussed and well communicated. What types of communication styles are there? Here are some broad but common categories: Affiliative/Indirect Think of this style as collaborative. The affiliative communicator is comfortable sharing power. In the case of couples, they will almost always get their partner’s input before making a decision. Some characteristics of an affiliative/indirect communicator include: A desire to work out problems collectively Does not want or appreciate direct challenges A bluntly stated disagreement may be perceived as hostile May take disagreements personally Will remain quiet until all sides have presented their case When interacting with an affiliative/indirect communicator, you may have to do some work to fully grasp their intentions. In their quest to avoid tension or confrontation, they’ll start with “maybe” before stating a clear “no.” Competitive/Direct This communication style is the flip side of the affiliative communicator. A competitive communicator isn’t necessarily “competing” but they’re unafraid to challenge those around them and/or make decisions on their own. The competitive/direct communicator is: Willing to dominate discussions Ready to get right to the point Comfortable with immediately speaking up when faced with disagreeable topic A direction giver and decision maker At their best when working within a clear power structure Appreciative of bluntness, honesty, and short answers As you might imagine, the competitive/direct communicator uses [...]
Three words you just don’t want to see lined up in a row: relationship power struggle. Perfect balance may not be always attainable. In fact, it’s never attainable! But when your relationship becomes an ongoing tug of war, dysfunction sets in quickly. From there, peaceful co-creation is a pipe dream. A major factor in such situations is the power imbalance. Our culture, in general, favors some while others struggle. This dynamic does not vanish just because two people fall in love. What dynamics can cause a power imbalance? 1. Age Age-gap relationships are tricky on many levels but one aspect remains under-examined: ageism. In general, the younger partner is taken less seriously. Even the older partner may contribute to this reality thanks to long term conditioning. 2. Sex/gender We live in a male-dominant society. Women face far more hardship and oppression than men. The results of this imbalance play out in more ways than we can list here. 3. Race We also live in a white-dominant society. Mixed race couples must remain very diligent to not fall prey to the insidious traps of racism. Again, cultural conditioning can often trump intent. Never take it for granted that you can keep learning. 4. Finances Money issues have the potential to poison any relationship. When one partner earns substantially more than the others, resentment is always lurking. Such an imbalance is also a recipe for controlling behavior. This topic requires your full focus and attention. 5. Education Education differences also have the potential to create a difference in perceptions, acceptance, and the way couples discuss, explore differences and resolve any differences or conflicts. 6. Communication Talking Styles Different communication talking styles help to create misunderstandings and [...]