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PodCast Interview with Nicklas Ehrlich – Balance Your Life

PodCast Interview with Nicklas Ehrlich, MSW, RSW, RCC (Vital Synergy Mind Fitness Inc.) The interview addresses what causes various areas of life to be out of balance, how to identify these areas and how they can affect each areas of our life, and what we can do to help change the course of any imbalance back to balance and greater resiliency and contentment. Listen to the Podcast    

By |2018-10-27T20:39:41+00:00October 27th, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Epstein Barr Virus Info

Are you fatigued, gaining weight, have hormone imbalance, in pain, experiencing numbness and tingling, ringing in the ears or have a diagnosis of Hypothyroidism, Fibromyalgia, Chronic Fatigue, Rheumatoid Arthritis, MS, Lupus or Lyme’s?  There is a virus called Epstein-Barr that is probably causing your symptoms Is a highly contagious virus that infects via bodily fluids such as saliva, blood, etc. In Stage One: It is initially dormant in the blood replicating and waiting for an opportunity to launch an infection When you physically exhaust yourselfand don’t fully recover, or if you are deficient in zinc and B12, or have atraumatic emotional experience, the virus detects these stress-related hormones and strikes Also, when undergoing major hormonal changes e.g. puberty, pregnancy or menopause After childbirth, aches, pains, fatigue and depressionare all symptoms of the virus EBV uses hormones as a fuel source – their abundance (puberty, pregnancy, menopause) acts as a trigger Stage one can take weeks, months or a decade or longer depending on a variety of factors The virus is vulnerable in stage one but is also undetectable through tests and causes no symptoms    EBV Stage Two: At the end of stage one, Epstein Barr virus is ready to do battle with your body. It turns into Mononucleosis known as the “kissing disease”caused by exhaustioncommon in college students with all night partying and studying This stage the virus is most contagious– avoid exposed blood, saliva or other bodily fluids from someone with mono or avoid exposing anyone else to your fluids if you have mono How severely this battle rages varies depending on the strain of EBV. A mild case would be a scratchy throat and tiredness for a week or two, a severe [...]

By |2018-08-17T00:24:10+00:00August 17th, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Relationship Checkup: How to Build a Plan for Couple Maintenance

If only relationships came with a “check engine” light. We go and go. We brush aside some concerns or ignore red flags. But in the end, if we don’t get a regular relationship checkup, we’re flirting with disaster. Relationship Reminders We may be told stories of “till death do we part” and “happily ever after,” but reality has its own tale to tell. The divorce rate ranges as high as 50 percent—and that’s only for first marriages. The second time around, there might be a 60 to 70 percent chance of divorce. Can you imagine if we could keep track of the “break-up” rate for long-term, non-married couples? This is the worst-kept secret in our culture, but so few of us do anything to prevent it. If we know a given food is bad for our health, we make conscious choices to avoid it. This doesn’t guarantee good health, but it’s the logical preventative measure. It’s time to apply such rational thought to our relationships. Relationship Checkup: How to Build a Plan for Couple Maintenance 1. Communication This is the foundation. It requires steady maintenance and re-evaluation. Without healthy communication, every other aspect of your relationship is weakened and more vulnerable. A few of the steps are:   Learn how to listen actively Learn the two talking styles and learn how to speak both styles Practice radical honesty Avoid passive-aggressive choices Learn how to forgive and how to give an authentic apology 2. Intimacy We must allow for evolution and re-imagining. Intimacy is not a static destination. It’s a wonderful and fluid process if we work together to keep things flowing. Some suggestions:   Accept that lust feels differently over time Learn to work with [...]

By |2018-06-11T23:08:40+00:00December 14th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

How to Stop Worrying

It’s one of those words that feeds on itself. Just hearing the word worry can make us worry and then not stop worrying. That’s not to say there’s not a time and place for worrying. But this reaction can become habitual and dangerous to our overall health. What is worry and why do we do it? To worry is to give way to feelings of fear, doubt, anxiety, and guilt. It’s to let these feelings manifest into images of future problems—images we dwell on incessantly. To worry is to live in a state of anxiety. So why would we do this to ourselves?   Like anger and fear, for example, worry is something viewed as bad that can often save our lives. Without worry, none of us would still be here to figure out how to stop worrying. We face real dangers in our life. Worry can be a powerful defense mechanism.   When it becomes chronic, we worry when danger isn’t present. That’s when worry earns its negative reputation. In fact, the danger of worrying can become far worse than anything we’re worrying about! Negative impacts of worrying:   Physical and mental exhaustion Weight gain/Digestive issues Hair loss Sleep disturbances Loss of focus and concentration High blood pressure Memory loss Depressed immune system Holding onto hurts from the past Getting stuck on behaviours (compulsions) Oppositional behavior Argumentativeness Uncooperativeness Addictive behaviors Chronic pain Cognitive inflexibility Eating disordrs Road rage Obessive-compulsive disorder   This daunting list is just a sampling. But it all adds up to a chronic state of mind that cannot sustain good health. We can become paranoid, irritable, anxious, and clinically depressed. How to Stop Worrying 1. Accept the limits of your control [...]

By |2017-12-08T01:26:38+00:00December 8th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Relationship Crisis? Building Intimacy from the Fire of Conflict

When you and your significant other are arguing, intimacy is often the last thing on your mind. During conflict, we may choose some form of distancing, e.g.   Passive-aggressive interactions Silent treatment Not sleeping in the same bed   The variations are endless, but the feeling is the same. A relationship crisis rarely feels like the best time for building intimacy. In many cases, it’s not. However, the fire of conflict does not have to be all-consuming. In fact, focusing on intimacy can be the key towards recovering and reconnecting. The Positive Impact of Building Intimacy In some ways, intimacy is what makes your connection a romance. We all have deep relationships with friends and family members. We share life-changing moments with them. Time with our spouse, however, involves another layer. This doesn’t mean something purely sexual. Intimacy is a fluid process and it can steadily reinforce and re-invent our relationship. And it comes in many forms, e.g.   Physical Intellectual Spiritual Experiential   In times of crisis, intimacy may be the strongest thread holding things in place because it requires:   Trust Vulnerability Honest with self and others Flexibility Respect   It’s not hard to see how those five components also play a crucial role in conflict resolution. 5 Ways to Start Building Intimacy from the Fire of Conflict 1. Communication is sexy It’s also smart and wise and necessary. Communicate. Let your partner know what you need, want, and desire. Even if you think your communication is healthy, keep checking in. Improve your listening skills. Check your body language and tone of voice. Appreciate the power of physical gestures. And choose radical honesty. 2. Don’t force it Conflict can shift a mood quickly. [...]

By |2017-11-30T03:01:32+00:00November 30th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Why Talk Counselling and Coaching Aren’t Enough to Motivate & Change Behavior

What does “therapy” mean? Truthfully, therapy is a word used to cover a lot of ground. In fact, it’s often used to cover far too much ground. It’s more accurate to say therapies. Broadly speaking, there are five categories of therapies: Psychoanalysis and psychodynamic therapies Behavior therapy Cognitive therapy Humanistic therapy Integrative or holistic therapy Translation: Many, many therapies have been created to motivate and change behavior. Talk counselling is just one of them. Taken alone, talk counselling and/or coaching may not be enough. Changing conscious programs or conditioning is important but not the only goal. Simply put, our subconscious programming is responsible for 95 percent of our personality and our behaviour. Why Talk Counselling and Coaching  Aren’t Enough to Motivate & Change Behavior Using conscious modalities of therapy only touches the 5 percent of beliefs. It does not touch or transform the 95 percent of the subconscious programming from genetics and from childhood developmental programming from the environment. What is subconscious programming? It’s like an operating system on a computer. Our subconscious mind contains our habits, memories, beliefs, and control over your body. Therefore, it requires specific modalities to address this operating system. This is not to say talk counselling and coaching aren’t very productive and necessary parts of an overall program. Talk counselling can offer a comfortable and supportive atmosphere where clients can be motivated to achieve the personal growth they strive for. As for coaching, it encompasses: Prioritizing, looking at options/solutions Goal setting and clarification Creating optimal results Bringing forth new healthy behaviors that lead to greater success in business and in your personal life A multifaceted approach to your emotional well-being would include some aspect of talk counselling and coaching. But [...]

By |2017-10-16T21:05:56+00:00October 30th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

How to Express your Feelings and Needs in a Non-Threatening Way

We live in an era when you use emojis and ALL CAPS to express your feelings. It sometimes feels like no one communicates face to face anymore. While this varies from person to person—and from location to location—there are still some constants. For example, you want to express your feelings and needs. But, whether it’s while lying in bed together or long distance via text, you wish to communicate in a non-threatening way. What makes your expression style appear threatening? There are obvious examples, of course. When you announce that you’ll commit bodily harm if you don’t get your way, well, the threat is clear. However, on purpose or not, we can often change the dynamics of a conversation in far more subtle ways, e.g. Voice-related issues. How loud we speak is major. Also, keep in mind: how much we speak and whether or not we interrupt. Posture, gestures, etc. Body language can shift perception. Standing while everyone is sitting is a common example. In addition, facial expression and physical mannerisms form a language of their own. Exploiting power imbalances. Not all conversations are created equal. Two people may think they’re speaking as equals, but consider the impact of sex, ethnicity, race, class, age, and position (boss-employee, parent-child, etc.) Being passive-aggressive. What we refuse to say carries weight. To passive-aggressively suggest opinions or to withhold those opinions breeds resentment and feel threatening at times. Think about the power of keeping someone on “read” when communicating via online chat. 5 Ways to Express your Feelings and Needs in a Non-Threatening Way Stay aware of body language and tone Being the loudest or biggest or most talkative person in the room adds something to your words—like it [...]

By |2017-10-16T21:00:47+00:00October 23rd, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Love Script: How to Rewrite your Relationship

Love can be enduring, some might say eternal. Compatibility on the other hand, well, that’s a whole other story. It’s also where so much of the work lies. Many couples remain in love but don’t remain together. This is often because they didn’t rewrite their love script by tuning into how they were evolving.   There are three important questions to ask here: How are my needs and habits evolving? How are my partner’s needs and habits evolving? How is our relationship handling our individual evolution?   Simply put, these points are what your love script is built upon. If one of the questions is getting less attention than the other, you are dwelling in imbalance. This state puts you on the slippery slope towards dysfunction and perhaps, a break-up. 8 Ways to Rewrite Your Love Script and Your Relationship! 1. Reject perfectionism Pop culture keeps us chasing the latest trends, the hottest gadget, and yes…even the perfect relationship. Reject perfectionism (it doesn’t exist) and embrace the process (it’s where all the memories are created). 2. Accept change Love, at first sight, is wonderful. But is it sustainable? Rarely, at best. In reality, it’s most productive to accept that you both will continue to change and evolve. Such acceptance creates space for your love script to take all sorts of new twists and turns. 3. Communicate about the big issues Only you can define what’s “big” to you but typically, this means money, kids, sex, and so on. Don’t leave any of this to chance. Life moves quickly and it becomes convenient to avoid conflict. It may feel convenient but in the long run, it’s a recipe for division. 4. Communicate in general and in [...]

By |2017-12-01T15:31:52+00:00October 16th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

How to Support Effective and Respectful Boundary Setting

Boundary setting is one of the most important and challenging steps we must take in any relationship. As friends, we may be joined at the hip. As partners, we’re soul mates who finish each other’s sentences. In our careers, we have inseparable colleagues. Regardless of the setting, the truth remains that we’re individuals first and foremost. This means we can and do have boundaries that impact even those closest to us. Why is it so hard to set boundaries? The answers to this question are complex and virtually endless but here are some common trends: We have been conditioned from an early age to be a people-pleaser. Boundaries will likely decrease your popularity and sometimes perceived safety. Boundary setting is sure to anger those who seek to control.   Not knowing what it is what we want. How can we set boundaries when we’ve never been encouraged to put ourselves first?   This is when others do their best to stop you from putting yourself first. Some will try to twist around your boundaries until they are nothing like what you declared.  That also can be referred to as “Crazy Making”, where you may even doubt your own need for the boundary!   We feel responsible for the other person’s response. This is tricky. We love many people in our lives and fear hurting them in any way, having conflict with them or being potentially emotionally abandoned if boundary setting is not appreciated. 6 Ways to Support Effective and Respectful Boundary Setting Don’t lose perspective when online The Internet has changed almost everything. Boundary setting has become harder than ever. Of course, there’s the anonymous option—which seems to embolden many to become trolls. But also, [...]

By |2017-09-28T01:22:19+00:00October 7th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments

Neurofeedback Helps Veteran Win The War On PTSD

This article covers how two war vets with PTSDF become permanently locked in a state of adrenal fight or flight, unaware of the dangerous consequences to their lives and becoming a constant negative loop with no relief and huge consequences. It tells of how conventional treatments had failed them and what eventually brought them out of despair and being stuck in this mental loop and back into balance and into mental health. https://neuroptimal.com/neurofeedback-helps-veteran-win-war-ptsd/

By |2017-12-01T15:32:25+00:00October 6th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments